Online Dating Safety Tips

E-Snag.com offers a fun and secure environment to meet other Native singles. It’s also a great place to build loving and trusting friendships that can lead to lasting, real life relationships. Whether you decide to correspond online or meet members in person, please use sound judgment and be responsible for your conduct. In both the virtual and real worlds, common sense is your best safety tool.

Start Slow

Watch out for someone who seems too good to be true. Begin by communicating solely via e-mail, watch for odd behavior or inconsistencies. The person at the other end may not be who or what he or she says. Trust your instincts. If anything makes you uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection, then let us know so we can keep a watch on that person.

Guard Your Anonymity

All correspondence between E-Snag.com members takes place through our double-blind system, ensuring your true identity is protected until you decide to reveal it. Never include your last name, e-mail address, home address, phone number, place of work or any other identifying information in your free profile or initial messages. When corresponding with another E-Snag.com member, turn off your e-mail signature file. Stop communicating and notify Customer Service when anyone pressures you for personal information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it.

Exercise Caution and Common Sense

Careful, thoughtful decisions generally yield better dating results. Guard against trusting the untrustworthy; suitors must earn your trust gradually, through consistently honorable, forthright behavior. Take all the time you need to test for a trustworthy person and pay careful attention along the way. If you suspect someone is lying, he or she probably is, so act accordingly. Be responsible about romance, and don’t fall in love at the click of a mouse. Don’t become prematurely intimate with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online. If you mutually decide to cross the point of no return, be smart and protect yourself.

A Real Example For Using Caution

One of our members received an email like the one below... from a member (until he was reported to us, we then deleted him and reported him to the authorities) who used a stolen credit card to join. Remember, E-Snag.com is YOUR site and as hard as we work to protect our members we still need you to be smart and safe:

"I’m sending you this e-mail in a hurry from the Hotel I’m lodged and I only have 30 min, I traveled to Nigeria for a seminar and I got stranded after I forgot my little bag in the Taxi on my way to the Hotel I`m presently lodged, in the little bag contain my money, passport, documents and other valuable things, I’m presently facing a hard time here because I have no money on me. I’m now owning a hotel bill of $1550 and they want me to pay the bill soon else they seize my bag and hand me over to the Hotel Management, I need this help from you urgently, I need you to help me with the hotel bill and I will also need $1600 to feed and help me back home, I need the total of $3150. I will appreciate what so ever you can afford and I promise to pay back as soon as I return home.

I have contacted the Embassy, and they promised to give me traveling papers that I would need to have my way back home, all I need right now is the money to settle my bills and leave.

Please let me know if you can help me so I can send to you my details to send the money

Hope to hear from you soon.

Thanks
R***** Twineagle

Request a Photo

A photo will give you a good idea of the person’s appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling. In fact, it’s best to view several images of someone in various settings: casual, formal, indoors or outdoors at a powwow. This is one reason we strongly recommend you post current photos of yourself in your profile. If all you hear are excuses about why you can’t see a photo or why they can’t post one, consider that he or she has something to hide, since E-Snag.com offers free scanning services to its members, there’s no reason someone shouldn’t be able to provide you a photo.

Chat on the Phone

A phone call can reveal much about a person’s communication and social skills. Consider your security and do not reveal your personal phone number to a stranger. Try a mobile phone number instead or use local telephone blocking techniques to prevent your phone number from appearing in Caller ID. Only furnish your phone number when you feel completely comfortable.

Meet When YOU Are Ready

The beauty of meeting and relating online is that you can collect information gradually, later choosing whether to pursue the relationship in the real world. You never are obligated to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy. And even if you decide to arrange a meeting, you always have the right to change your mind. It’s possible that your decision to keep the relationship at the anonymous level is based on a hunch that you can’t logically explain. Trust yourself. Go with your instincts.

Meet in a Safe Place, maybe at a powwow

When you choose to meet in person, always tell a friend where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date’s name and telephone number with your friend. Tell your date you are doing this. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home. Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time with many people around, and when the date is over, leave on your own as well. A familiar restaurant or coffee shop, at a time when a lot of other people will be present, is often a fine choice. If you decide to move to another location, take your own car. When the timing is appropriate, thank your date for getting together and say goodbye.

Take Extra Caution Outside Your Area

If you are flying in from another city, arrange for your own car and hotel room. Do not disclose the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make the arrangements for you. Rent a car at the airport and drive directly to your hotel. Call your date from the hotel or meet at the location you have already agreed to. If the location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel. Try to contact your date at that location or leave a message on a home machine. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information. And if possible, carry a mobile phone at all times.

Get Yourself Out of a Jam

Never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice, ask someone else on the scene for help or slip out the back door and drive away. If you feel you are in danger, call the police; it’s always better to be safe than sorry. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior; your safety is much more important than one person’s opinion of you. If they don’t agree with that, then you shouldn’t be wasting your time with them.

While liars, cheaters and imposters certainly ply their craft on the Web, you’ll also find them in nightclubs and offline dating services, cocktail parties or even sitting across from you at your local café. Regardless of where you meet someone, dating is never a risk-free activity, but a little caution will reduce your risk in matters of the heart. Now it’s time for safety-conscious you to use “Find My Match” to find a quality date!

Please contact our customer service if someone fails to respect your request to be left alone. We have in place and will adhere to a strict policy of appropriate behavior. The majority of people in the Native community are good, honest and respectable people... but as with all people of the world, there are some bad.